Invisible Wounds & the Struggle Within

Unhealed psychological wounds resulting from traumatic experiences or losses can cast a dark shadow over our ability to form fulfilling relationships and undermine our self-esteem.

Traumatic experiences such as childhood neglect, physical and sexual abuse, witnessing tragedies, enduring an abusive relationship, or experiencing the violent loss of a loved one can deeply disrupt the psyche, leaving individuals feeling profoundly "different." These "invisible wounds" are likely to pave the way for a challenging and troubled life if left unaddressed.

Fortunately, except in cases where events exceed our mind's coping capacity (in which professional help should be sought), there are steps we can take to support ourselves or others when dealing with such situations.

TIME ALONE WILL NOT HEAL

It is crucial to recognize that, unlike physical pain, the mere passage of time will not make emotional pain disappear. Memories and emotions tied to past traumatic experiences require healing to alleviate their impact. Waiting for them to fade on their own will not suffice. To effect change, you must genuinely believe in the potential for healing and take action.

RELEASE THE SHACKLES OF SHAME

Shame is a debilitating emotion that often emerges after a traumatic event, impeding the healing and recovery process and causing survivors to become trapped in their pain. Feeling ashamed (and at times even guilty) after enduring trauma—thinking, "I couldn't defend myself," "I should have never married that person," "I could have done something to help"—renders healing nearly impossible. Remember, you should never feel ashamed; becoming a victim of trauma was never your choice.

SPEAK YOUR TRUTH

Seek out safe and supportive individuals with whom you can open up about your trauma. Share your experiences, and refuse to let overwhelming emotions consume you. Choose a secure environment where you feel comfortable. Focus on your own experience and how it has affected your life. Avoid treading into perilous territory by dwelling on hypothetical scenarios or regretful decisions. Strive to approach the conversation with rationality—acknowledge the experience and its impact.

NOURISH YOUR SELF-ESTEEM

Reclaim your self-esteem by making decisions that provide a sense of control over your life. Keep yourself occupied, spend time with supportive individuals, engage in activities that bring you joy, lend a helping hand, immerse yourself in meaningful pursuits, and strive for personal achievements. Self-esteem serves as the fuel that propels you forward during the healing process.

SEE YOURSELF FROM A NEW PERSPECTIVE

Step outside of yourself, figuratively, and examine your being. What do you currently see, and what would you like to see in the future? Reflect on your desired destination and outline the steps necessary to get there. Maintain a positive mindset throughout this introspection. Constructive self-assessment will help keep you on track during your healing journey.

Nobody desires traumatic experiences. If given the choice, we would opt for a life free of pain. Unfortunately, life does not offer us such choices. Unwanted events occur constantly, and some are more traumatic than others, leaving behind invisible wounds that are challenging to heal. These wounds will only dissipate if you actively seek healing and truly believe in your own capacity for growth.